Dispelling taboos, Michelle Obama talks IVF and miscarriage


Free from the constraints she might have felt while living in the White House, former first lady Michelle Obama is getting personal, opening herself up to the world in bold ways in her memoir, “Becoming,” out Tuesday.

One piece of her journey that she delves into the struggles she faced with infertility, a subject that so often remains in the shadows.
She shared details about how she had a miscarriage and relied on in vitro fertilization to conceive her two girls, according to the Washington Post, which received an advance copy of the book. She also revealed how she was left to give herself the necessary shots when her husband was off fulfilling his duties in the state Legislature.
“I felt lost and alone, and I felt like I failed,” she told Robin Roberts in an interview that ran Friday on “Good Morning America.” “I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them. We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.”
What Obama articulates is “so universal, not just throughout the US but around the world,” says Dr. Zev Williams, director of the Columbia University Fertility Center. “There’s a real sense of self-blame and guilt and a reluctance to discuss it with other people.”
Williams co-authored a 2015 study looking into public perceptions of miscarriage. Even though he says miscarriage or pregnancy loss occurs in at least 20% of all pregnancies, 55% of those who responded to his survey thought miscarriage was rare, occurring in 5% or less of pregnancies, and some believed that they occur “in under 0.1% of pregnancies,” he said.
Not only are miscarriages common, but they are also “in almost all cases” not the mother’s fault, Williams added. The fact that this sort of information isn’t widely known only makes matters worse.

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